Dealing With A 13 Year Old Kid

Dealing with a 13 year old kid can be very challenging.
Thirteen year old's are going through hormonal changes and it reflects their character.

As a parent it is very hard to swallow. Here you are thinking that you know your kid when in reality we don't. It is very important to listen to your kid and be open minded.
We are in different times now.

We have to realize that kids will always want to fit in at school and socially with their friends and acquaintances.

they may be under a lot of peer pressure.

Controlling parents don't get anywhere with their kids. You must always remind them that you are not their friend, but their parent. Always reassure the child that you love them now matter what. It is important to let them know that you will always be there for them no matter what they do.

This may sound all crazy to you but it actually works. Kids like to have a sense of control in some kind of way.

You cannot give them control over any situation because they will take that control and use it against you.

It is important to make your kid responsible for their actions at all times.
For example, if your kid is told to be home on time, and he or she is not, than you must take something that they like away from them until you feel that have learned a lesson.
You must set standards with your kid.
If your kid likes to yell at you and not listen.

You must get in their face and let them know that you are not their friend and that you refuse to allow them to yell at you.

You are the parent and you will not allow their mischievous behavior.
At this point let them know that their will be a consequence behind their action. This may be difficult to do in the beginning, but if you keep at it, you will see results. I have three teenage girls and this helps me cope with them.
I also have friends that have difficult to handle teenagers and these steps help them also cope with their kids.
These unacceptable behaviors usually start at the age of 13 for some reason or another.